Missing You

Lately, I’ve been missing my blog.  I miss writing about the stuff going on day to day around here.  In retrospect, I can see why I fell out of blogging.  I kept feeling like I had nothing to say, and while that was kind of true, I now think it was because I struggled horribly at the end of our stay in North Carolina and while we were in New Jersey.  At the time, I couldn’t’ see it for what it was, but looking back I feel it had to be because of my lack of friends.

In NC, most everyone I knew moved away long before we did.  I knew we’d be going eventually, so it seemed silly to invest the time and effort into making more friends.  Then when we were in NJ, we were so close to family after living so far away basically since I’d graduated high school and started my own family, that I was super focused on spending time with my mom and older boys.

We moved here to Charleston with the intentions of staying forever, and so far that hasn’t changed at all.  We love it here.  I spent the first several months not knowing anyone, but stepped out of my comfort zone one day on a whim and showed up at a meeting I heard about on Facebook.  It was perfect in that it was a the food court at the mall, so I could decide when I got there whether or not to introduce myself.

Over the past two years, this Facebook group has grown from a handful of people to over 200 members.  Granted, only a few of us meet regularly, but we have big meet ups every three months.  Those are attended by 50+ people, and growing every time.  Our bi-weekly lunch dates are now coupled with nightly Starbucks dates on the off weeks, so I get to see my people every week.  And of course to top that off, I’ve become close to several ladies and we’ll meet outside of the planned days.

So now that I am out there doing fun stuff, I miss documenting our days here.  I actually have things to write about!  Maybe I’ll be back.

Another Perspective.

16 years ago, I was newly married to Aaron and pregnant with our first baby.  We were so in love- with each other and with the child we’d created.  Having three kids from my first marriage, I naively assumed that in August, we’d have our newborn.  My biggest worry was whether I was having a boy or a girl.  I’d wanted a baby girl terribly, since I had three sons.

At our 20 week ultrasound, my biggest concern was gender.  I couldn’t wait to shop, especially if I was able to buy girly things!  Unfortunately, the baby was measuring a bit small and in a position where the technician was not only unable to gather the required measurements, but also wasn’t able to determine if there were boy or girl parts.  She sent us on our way with an appointment to come back in a couple weeks.

In the days leading up to my followup scan, I was having some really weird back and chest pain that I’d never experienced in prior pregnancies, but I figured I had an appointment coming, and I’d talk about it then.

On the day of the appointment, the baby was still measuring small- she had barely- if at all- grown in the past weeks.  The fluid was low as well which is a sign of the kidneys not working.  The tech called in the doctor, who immediately took my blood pressure.  It was in the stroke range.

I was immediately admitted, and despite every effort and medication they tried, I was getting worse.  My platelet count was going down, and my liver and kidney functions were decreasing. I began getting severe headaches and my body was shutting down.

Despite the fact I wanted this baby, and would have done anything to have her, I needed to deliver to save my life.  In doing so, she’d be so premature that she would not survive.  Do you know what this process is?  Abortion.

We call it a stillbirth because she was a wanted baby.  But the process and procedure is the same.  If I was unable to obtain the procedure, I would have died.

THIS is why I am pro-choice.  By taking away a woman’s rights to a legal abortion, you are also taking away a procedure that saved my life.  You don’t get to pick and choose.  I get it, I totally understand the stance of those who believe that abortion shouldn’t be used as birth control, and that there are so many people out there who would love to adopt a baby.  Believe me, I get it.  But if we deny one, we deny them all and I don’t think it’s my place to decide if another woman in a situation like mine lives or dies.

Quick Back-to-School Checklist for High Schoolers

High school is an exciting time. It doesn’t matter if your student is just starting out on his or her freshman year or if senior year is looming; there are plenty of exciting events and milestones to look forward to. Of course, first your student has to make it through the first day of school. […]

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Choosing Healthy Food for Your Diet

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The LLR Rabbit Hole

I get sucked into things.  Obsessed. I am not sure what it started with, but over the years it’s included things like: Strollers Cloth Diapers Essential Oils Washi Planners Beaded Jewelry Supplies Make Up Hair Bows Books Nail Polish Beanie Babies Jamberry Wraps You get the idea.  Some of these I still collect and use- […]

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