I recently read a great blog post written by a fellow dead baby mom and shared it on my blog’s Facebook wall. I was flamed and called “really f*&ked up” by a reader. Thinking it over, I understand that not everyone agrees with the phrase, but it is what it is. I think part of the reason it was so surprising to me to hear that was because I figure if you like my blog’s Facebook page, you read my blog. And if you read my blog, you know me well enough to know that’s what I am.
The more I think about it, the more offended *I* get. I think she was very inappropriate to use that language on someone’s page (and that’s coming from me and I have the worst potty mouth!).
I feel that it’s more offensive when people tell you that your dead baby is an angel, and with God now. It’s very presumptuous to assume someone is religious and that a comment like that would give them comfort.
However, regardless of my personal beliefs, I don’t get bent out of shape when someone refers to my losses as angels. So why should I have to sugar coat it when I use the phrase dead babies? It’s not derogatory. It’s not an insult. It is just a fact. And it’s widely used in the baby loss community.
I’m curious as to what your thoughts are on the topic- and whether or not you have had a loss.