I was talking to an acquaintance recently, who has two small children. Her youngest is about a year, and the older child is 4. They are three typical kids- with no behavioral issues or delays. For the most part, they’re good, although the older child is learning walk all over her and she kind of lets him run the show. But that’s another entire issue…
She won’t go anywhere with them, without another adult.
I totally understand it’s easier to shop, run errands, whatever, when you have someone else helping you tag team the kids. I really get it. But she refuses!
The other day she told me how she was brave and met a friend and her kids at the playground- and didn’t drag her mother in law along with her. For the first time since the baby was born. The baby is a year old! I couldn’t believe it and started discussing it with her.
She always leaves the kids with her husband, mother, or mother in law when she goes grocery shopping, or runs errands. She never brings the kids to restaurants, just in case they misbehave. If she needs to run to the store for milk or something, she’ll instead ask for someone to drop it off.
I know it’s easier not to load up little kids to run out, but what if no one could come with her, or do it for her? She says she’s postponed doctor’s appointments because she had no one to go with her.
I can’t imagine relying on others to that extent. Not only do we not have family nearby to even make that possible, but what about when Aaron has duty, or worse- deploys? He left when the twins were not even four months old and of course it sucked and we missed him, but we made it work- and I didn’t stay holed up at home the whole time. We went out to dinner- yes, I was the only adult with four kids- grocery shopped, and did everything that needed to be done.
I feel that if you have kids, you need to be able to take care of them, and if you can’t bring your two kids to the post office to drop off a package, that might be a problem. I understand not all kids have the ability to behave the way we’d like them to- but in this case, that isn’t the problem.
Do you agree with me? Or do you agree with the reasoning of my acquaintance who claims I am only able to deal with my kids alone because I have no choice with Aaron being military?