Friendship Friday

6 Apr posted by

Marcia at The 123 Blog has been discussing making and keeping friends as an adult a lot on her blog lately- so much in fact she’s started Friendship Friday.  I’m super behind on everyone’s blog, so this is in response to a post she made back in the beginning of March.

I have a really hard time making friends.  Sometimes I’ll meet someone, and think OMG we could totally get along.  I have difficulty reaching out and taking that next step- going from acquaintances to friendship.  I wonder if these people feel the same as me, and find it awkward to move to that next level, or if they just don’t like me or aren’t looking for a BFF.

There are a couple of people who I have made that effort and invited over our out to do something who confuse me.  They’ve hung out when I’ve done the reaching out, but have never reciprocated.   I don’t know what to do with that- do I keep setting things up with them, or should I step back and wait for them to make a move?

So even when I do get myself out there and try to create friendships, I struggle.  It’s really hard for me to even put myself into situations to meet new people, and I don’t know how to cross over from someone you see at say, work events, and always chat with to someone you become friends with outside of work.  (Obviously hypothetical since I don’t have a job, but you get the point!)

Do find it a struggle to make friends as an adult?


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Holy Cow, Batman!

26 Feb posted by

It’s Sunday already!

This weekend went by entirely too fast.  Friday night was Girl’s Night at my friend’s house, and despite my plan to come home at some point and go to bed that night, I ended up staying until like noon.  Without sleeping.  So when I got home on Saturday, all I did was sleep, wasting the entire day.

BUT it was so worth it, and so fun.  I really needed a night of adult conversation and relaxation.

My friend is almost to her due date, and has been in premature labor for months- it’s so amazing that she’s held on this long.  And it’s such a relief too, since she’s unfortunately a member of the baby loss club.  Her husband is also military, and had to be at work all night, and I was happy to keep her company.

There of course was some baking, lots of junk food snacking, a few movies, and TONS of talking.  Husband talk, baby talk, pregnancy talk, raising kids talk, you name it, we discussed it.  We had grand plans to paint our toes, but realized we had no nail polish remover- and we both had super dark colors on that couldn’t possibly be painted over.  Oops.

We really need to make this a regular thing!

It isn’t often that I do something for me.  When is the last time you did something just for yourself, and what was it?

Also, I am so behind in my reader, so that’s what I’m going to do tonight.  I can’t wait to catch up with everyone!


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Six Degrees of Blogging

6 Aug posted by

Have you ever heard of the game ‘The Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon’?  Basically, it’s a trivia type game where you try to link celebrities through their film roles to Kevin Bacon in six steps, going off of the small world concept.  Well I’ve determined that blogging is the same way today.

Back when I was still pregnant with the twins and first blogging publicly, I somehow stumbled across a blog of another pregnant mom, Christa.  She was having her first, and we’d both started our blogs because of our pregnancies, and we’ve been friends ever since.

Over the past couple of years, we’ve introduced each other to more bloggers we’ve connected with, creating a little network of friends.  These ladies are my people, my tribe.  I can count on them for comments, I can bounce ideas off of them, and I can go to them with topics I’m not comfortable blogging about.

Through Christa, I was introduced to Summer.  I immediately loved her.  We have similar parenting styles, she gets my sense of humor, and I think we just clicked. (I hope she feels the same, or I’m going to feel like a huge dork.)

I promise there’s a point to this story- and I’m getting to it!

Last night, we were talking about BlogHer12.  We’re both really bummed we aren’t at BlogHer right now in San Diego, and when we found it it will be in NY next year, we both decided we were going.  I mentioned that it is perfect, because even if Aaron can’t get leave to watch the kids, I can leave them with my mom since she’s in NY and not worry about them.

Summer asked me what part of NY I’m from, because her husband’s family is also there.  We realized that our families are from the same county.  Then we put together that her husband’s family and my parents knew each other.  In fact, my parents were so close to her father-in-law, that when I was born, they asked him to be my Godfather- although we’ve lost touch through the years.

But holy wow, my blogging friend who lives in Georgia is married to my Godfather’s son!  What are the chances?

The internet is smaller than we realize.


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Excited!

30 Jan posted by

Megan from Best of Fates does the best excited face ever.  If you haven’t read her blog, you should.  I find her highly amusing and very entertaining.  And I’m not just saying that because she’s paying me.

So last night, when we attended a going away party for one of the Marines that Aaron works with, and I captured this photo, the first thought to spring into my head was ‘OMG Paul (that’s the dude’s name) has an excited face, just like Megan-Best-of-Fates.

Megan-Best-of-Fates is her full name, and I used the whole thing during my internal conversation because there was a girl named Tori at the party that this guy named Josh kept calling Megan, and she was not the same Megan as Megan-Best-of-Fates.  She is Tori-Megan-according-to-Josh.

Paul is quite good with kids- he’s got a bunch of younger siblings.  And if you give him a bowl of Hamburger Helper, he will babysit your children so you and your husband can go out to dinner.  If you have a husband.  And kids.  And of course Hamburger Helper.  Pretty sweet deal, if all those pieces fall into place though, eh?

He and Ryan Wii’ed for a bit, between games of Beer Pong.  For the record, Ryan did not participate in the Beer Pong.   He’s too short to reach the table.   Such a shame, really.

Dylan likes the little cups.  Kids seem to be drawn to miniature things- probably because they’re miniature themselves.  Don’t worry, any and all inappropriate beverages were consumed by people old enough to do the consuming.  Even though Mia really wanted to have a little cup instead of her big one.

While the title of this post is ‘Excited!’, I am not.  I am not the least bit excited that Paul is leaving, even though he’s excited to PCS out of this town.  But we like him, so we don’t want to see him go.  So goes the transient life of a service member.  At least we’ll always have World of Warcraft…


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My New Friend.

5 Jan posted by

I think I’ve found my new IRL BFF.  She works at the local fast food place- currently in the drive-thru.  I need to find out her name.  I probably should have checked her name tag.

I first met her the summer that the twins were born.  She was pregnant then and worked at a different place.  Well she may be working at both places I suppose…or maybe she does one in the summer and the other in the winter?  I’ll ask her all about it when she becomes my BFF.

Anyway, we’d walk to DQ for dessert in the evenings and she’d admire my babies, so of course I automatically loved her.  Since she was pregnant and I had two newborns, we often talked pregnancy and baby talk.

So tonight  I went through the drive thru to grab dinner and she was there.  I had to wait on my onion rings so when she came out to bring me my bag, she also said hi to the babies who were with me.

And she hooked me up with a free slice of pie.   She’s definitely BFF material.


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