How did I get here?

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I made the jump from blogging privately to a public forum with my grief blog.  I wanted to share what I’d been through with my losses on the off chance that someone out there who was going through the same thing would be helped by knowing they weren’t alone. When I lost Raime in 2001, [...]

Pregnancy ‘April Fools’ Announcements

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Many of us saw a wave of fake pregnancy announcements on Facebook yesterday.  And while to some they may be funny, there’s a huge community of women out there that find them offensive or just plain hurtful. I know the vast majority of people who play the pregnancy joke aren’t doing it to be mean [...]

Duggar Funeral Episode

I’ve discussed the pregnancy and the loss here on my blog, so I thought I’d share my thoughts on the Duggar’s episode which aired last night and chronicled the family learning of Jubilee’s death.  I’m just now watching it, and blogging as it goes, so bear with me and know that these are my immediate [...]

My marriage was built on grief.

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For us, our first loss happened about a year after we met, and we’d only been married a few months. It sort of defined our relationship in that grief and baby loss has always been a part of who we are as a couple. We were stationed in Hawaii at the time, so just about [...]

Long winded ramble about my thoughts on dead baby photos.

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I’ve read several articles online recently questioning why the Duggar’s would photograph their miscarriage.  I am sure you all have seen them too, even if you aren’t a fan of the family.  There are people calling it grotesque, morbid, disgusting.  I figured as a mother who has given birth to death twice now, I would [...]

Fly, fly precious one your endless journey has begun

I see talk everywhere online about Michelle Duggar’s recent miscarriage.   I was reading on a message board where people were saying she announced it way too early.  (I am referring to the pregnancy itself, not the loss).  She was about 15-16 weeks when she went on the Today show and made the news public. [...]